I'm a very logical person.
Unfortunately, that doesn't tend to work that well. Especially in relationships. I'm sure some of you guys reading this can feel me on this one.
Everything has a reason Everything has an explanation. If someone's mad at me there is a reason why they're mad and there is something I can do to make it better. There has to be. Cause that's the how the world works.
Logic will get you into more trouble than just about anything else. Trying to figure people out is a fun pastime but not always the best idea.
During high school that's what I did. I would observe. Whether it be in band or different classes or lunch. I'd pick out people and observe them. Watch them. Talk to them. Figure them out inside and out. I never used it for anything bad. I used it to help a lot of my friends.
I had many people that would come to me for advice and I'd be more than happy to help them because I could be impartial. Something that you don't see enough with people.
But more importantly than figuring out your friends is figuring out people who you think may hurt you.
I had an ex come back into my life about six months ago. Wanted to make amends for what happened between us. Not going into detail, but it wasn't pretty.
I knew that it wouldn't work. Our personalities don't work together. It's just how we are. But I figured I'd give it a shot. I wanted to know if she'd changed or if she was the same selfish, hypocritical person that I dated.
So I tested her. Came to her for help. Said I was depressed, that I needed her to be there for me, saying she knew me better than anyone else and only she could help me. Was all of that strictly true? Not really. But I was doing it for me, not something that I often do. I had to know for my sake if it was worth the time and effort of attempting to be her friend.
Short answer: no, not at all.
It culminated with her saying that she shouldn't have to apologize for what happened between us because she didn't do anything wrong. Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeah. That was the last time we spoke.
I had to use logic to figure her out. To see if I was gonna end up getting hurt. No matter how much you encounter people who couldn't give a shit about logic, it's important. It's one of the most important things to focus on. Because when we dated I didn't use logic when I should have. And if I did I would've avoided a very bad time in my life.
So, my friends, use your logic. Make everything make sense. And if you're around people who refuse your logic maybe you need to reevaluate who you surround yourself with.